Self-Help Resources 

The appetite for self-help books has led to the publication of over 2000 new self-help books a year. As a society, we have become more focused on self improvement than at any other time in history. Advances in the scientific study of human behaviour has brought extensive information on better ways to raise your children, to lose weight, to improve relationships, to become a leader in the workplace, and to improve your personal effectiveness and happiness. >> more

Recommended Self-Help Books

Rating System

Excellent - A must read – meets all requirements
Very Good – A very worthwhile read
Good – An OK book but there are better
Fair – Not worth it – more fluff than substance
Poor – Avoid these books - have some misleading info and advice
Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns
Lots of exercises for overcoming a variety of problems using a cognitive behavioural approach.

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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey
This has been a best seller for many years. The ideas here are excellent and have led to many spin off books. It will appeal to those wanting to be more effective in work or personal endeavours.

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Mind Over Mood, by Dennis Greenberger & Christine Padesky
This is an excellent workbook for helping to deal with a wide variety of emotional problems using cognitive strategies.

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Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway, by Susan Jeffers
This book provides strategies for dealing with your voice of doom which holds you back from something you want or need to do.

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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy, by Kate Kelly & Pat Ramundo
A wonderfully helpful guide to understanding and coping with Attention Deficit Disorder in everyday life. It is not just helpful to adults with ADD but also to parents of children and adolescents struggling with this disorder as they gain insight into how ADD impacts their child's life.

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Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie
This is a best seller and excellent resource for those living with a partner who is suffering from alcohol or drug addiction. The author's personal experience describes self-care strategies and ways to feel less responsible for others.

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Alcoholics Anonymous
The most highly rated self help book for people with drinking problems. It describes the AA recovery program along with stories and case histories.

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The Addiction Workbook, by Patrick Fanning & John O'Neil
An excellent step by step comprehensive workbook for self change. This ecumenical guide begins with "Do You Have a Problem?" and ends with "Relapse Prevention" with lots of excercises and practical advice on nutrition, communication, relaxation and making amends.

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A Time to Heal, by Timmen L. Ceramk
This is an excellent book for adult children of alcoholics in which each chapter deals with a specific time along the path of healing and developing a new sense of belonging.

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The Anger Control Workbook, by Matthew Mckay & Peter Rogers
In this step by step guide you will learn to identify, undertsand, respond to and cope with hostile feelings. It will teach you how to relax in provactive situations. This is an excellent choice to help you control your anger.

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On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss, by Elizabeth Kubler Ross
This is the last book by the ground breaking author Ross on her research and writings about death and dying. Many reviewers of this book have called it 'comforting and thoughtful'.

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How to Survive the Loss of Love by Melba Colgrove, Harold Bloomfield & Peter McWilliams
Poetry, common sense and advice is interwoven into this guide to coping with a loss through death, divorce, rape, robbery or less obvious losses. This highly popular book has helped many deal with loss.

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Learned Optimism, by Martin Seligman
Based on psychological research this book shows you how optimists do better in life and how you can become more optimistic.

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Ten Days to Self Esteem, by David Burns
This self-help book is filled with logs, charts, step by step guides to help enhance your self esteem and discover the secret joys of daily life.

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Dance of Anger, by Harriet Lerner
This is a classic best seller because of the way it explains the anger in women's lives, how to express it in order to turn angger into a constructive force that can reshape a woman's life.

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Kids Are Worth It, by Barbara Coloroso
A classic on parenting with wit and wisdom, this book is also available on audio and video tapes.

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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
The goal of this practical parenting book is teach parents methods that affirm the dignity and humanity of parents and children.

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Siblings Without Rivalry, by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
An excellent help to parents in understanding the unpleasant conflict of warring brothers and sister. This book explains how to teach co-operation.

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Now I Know Why Tigers Eat Their Young, by Peter Marshall
A very humorous look at how to survive your teenagers, this work is written by a well respected Canadian psychologist.

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Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, by John Gottman
Through questionnaires discover your parenting style, and then learn how to help your child learn to become emotionally intelligent and socially well-adjusted.

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1-2-3 Magic, by Thomas W. Phelan
This humourous parenting book is good for helping parents provide non-punitive discipline for children aged 6-12.

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Why Do They Act That Way? by David Walsh & Nat Bennett
Why Do They Act That Way? by David Walsh & Nat Bennett This book introduces readers to the science, psychology of the adolescent experience. It is informative, reassuring and offers practical suggestions

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The Happiest Baby on the Block, by Harvey Karp
Written by a Paediatrician and Assistant Professor at the School of Medicine at UCLA, this book has been claimed by some as a 'life saver' for parents who are at their wits end with a crying baby.

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The Challenging Child: Understanding, Raising and Enjoying the five 'Difficult' types of Children, by Stanley Greenspan & Jacqueline Salmon
This book focuses on both "nature" (your child's inborn temperament) and "nurture" (the impact of the environment on your child). It helps parents identify and understand problem behaviours and how to develop an effective plan to bring about change.

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The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander, by Barbara Coloroso
An insightful book that explores all aspects of bullying and what is needed to stop the violence. Barbara Coloroso is a well known and respected Parent Educator.

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Keys to Parenting your Anxious Child, by Katherine Manassis
An excellent parenting approach to handling a child who is particularly nervous. Written by a staff psychiatrist at Toronto's Hospital for Sick Children.

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The Explosive Child, by Ross Green
For parents of children who are easily frustrated and have difficulty managing their anger this is a good resource.

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Driven to Distraction, by Edward M. Hallowell & John J. Ratey
This is a superb book written for all people, children and adults with ADHD.There is a thorough description of treatment possibilities.

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Taking Charge of ADHD, by Russell A. Barkley
This book describes how ADHD effects the lives of parents and children and provides many pratical and effective methods for helping them succeed.

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Putting Children First, by Hanna McDonough & Christine Bartha
An excellent Canadian guide for separated parents who want to minimize the damage done to children during and after the parental separation and divorce.

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Elder Care: A Six Step Guide to Balancing Elder Care and Work, by John Paul Marosey
This book provides wonderful practical advice to those of us who find ourselves caught between the responsibilities of work, family and providing care to elderly relatives.

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The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman
This book, based on extensive research, helps you assess your own relationship's strenths and weaknesses. It includes many exercises help you to improve your marriage.

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Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, by John Gottman
The authors provide you with vital tools to help you regain affection and romance lost through the years of ineffective communication.

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Divorce Busting, by Michele Weiner-Davis
A step by step guide of strategies to improve your marriage, and prevent divorce by learning positive solutions rather than focusing on problems.

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And Baby Makes Three, by John Gottman
This book is a six-step plan for preserving marital intimacy and rekindling romance after baby arrives.

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Why is it Always About You? by Sandy Hotchkiss
Whether the narcissist in your life is your co-worker, your boss, your parent or your spouse, this is a book that tells you how to learn to cope with a narcissist and how to disengage from one.

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After the Affair, by Janis Abrahms Spring
This is an excellent book which explains to partners how they can help themselves through the shattering crisis of infidelity. It contains proven strategies addressing questions such as why did the affair happen? Will love and trust ever return? Can or should I recommit when I feel so ambivalent? How do we become sexually intimate again? Is forgiveness possible?

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How Can I Forgive You? by Janis Abrams Spring
This book helps you to learn to let go of the cripling anger and pain of caused by betrayal. Whether you have been betrayed by your spouse,a friend or your parent, you will find help in the ideas here.

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Not Just Friends, by Shirley P. Glass
With original research and case examples, this book outlines a step by step guide through the process of infidelity - from suspicion and revelation to rebuilding trust and recovering your sanity after the infidelity is over.

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Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, by Bruce Fisher & Robert Alberti
A best seller for many years, this book has been helpful for those hurting after a divorce. It is a step by step program to help putting your life back together with right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants to help you through.

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The Present, by Spencer Johnson
A brief and engaging story which will help you focus on what will make you happy and successful in your work and personal life.

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Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson
A brief, amusing and simple parable that reveals some profound truths about how each of us handle unexpected change.

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Fear and Other Uninvited Guests, by Harriett Lerner
Unhappiness is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hit, they may become our constant companions. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear-lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us.

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How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, by Patricia Love & Steven Stosny
The authors contend that even with the best intentions, talking about your relationship does not bring you together. They teach couples to become more connected in other ways. When women avoid shaming a man and when a man learns to calm her fears stronger bonds form.

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How to Win as a Stepfamily, by Emily Visher & John Visher
This book is designed to help stepfamilies cope more effectively. They outline how to deal with the old loyalties and new ties: losses, changes and challenges for remarried, blended and step-families.

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Keeping The Love You Find, by Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt
This is a self0help program for singles who seek a loving rewarding relationship and how to keep it positive over the long run.

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Getting the Love You Want, by Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt
This book is based on the awareness of unresloved childhood conflicts and that by being more conscious, couples can learn to meet their partner's needs.

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Getting the Love You Want Workbook: The New Couples' Study Guide, by Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt
This workbook is a companion to the best selling book which introduced you to the "conscious marriage",an understanding of marriage that fosters maximum psychological and spiritual growth.

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How to Expand Love, by Dalai Lama & Jeffery Hopkins
In How to Expand Love, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, winner of the Noble Peace Prize, offers a simple yet illuminating program for transforming self-centered energy into outwardly directed compassion. Drawing on exercises and techniques established in Tibetan monasteries more than a thousand years ago, the Dalai Lama guides us through seven key stages.

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